am bolo dros gamudmebit erti da igive kitxva mitrialebs: "es siyvarulia, tu mxolod gataceba?" darwmunebuli var, bevri tqvengania chavardnili msgavs "gasawhirshi" da gadavwyvite gamendo chemi fiqrebi - iqneb ertmanets azrebis dalagebashi gamovadgettqo...

cxovreba isedac dznelia. me ki ufro metad vartuleb - yvelafris axsnas vedzeb. xom sheidzleba ubralod davtkbe cxovrebit?! magram, ara, mainc vchxrikav... vedzeb... vcdilob sighrmiseulad chavwvde movlenebs da wheshmariteba vipovo (imedia, katas ar gamovtxri im tagvivit, qartul andazashi romaa). wheshmaritebis dziebis gareshe cxovreba warmoudgenlad mimachnia. darwmunebuli var, namdvili sirtule mashin daiwyeba, tu dziebas shevwyvet da brmad mivendobi cxovrebas.

tavs goetes sityvebit vimshvideb: "vinc edzebs wheshmaritebas - whkviania, visac hgonia, ukve vipoveo - suleli"... meghimeba... sulelad yofna namdvilad ar minda! ...da dziebas vagrdzeleb.

...ver gamirkvevia, ra dzala mizidavs misken, saidan warmoishva chemshi gamudmebit mastan yofnis aseti mwveli, titqmis amouwuravi survili. ratom ganvicdi martoobas, roca mis gverdit ara var?.. ase ratom mixaria mastan yofna? ratomaa, rom gamudmebit chems fiqrebshia?.. ra memarteba?.. rodemde?.. sadamde?.. iqneb sizmaria?.. iqneb araferic araa da vazviadeb yvelafers? an, iqneb isaa is ertaderti, visac mteli cxovreba velodi da vistvisac ghirda lodini?.. iqneb vcdebi?.. maqvs ki shecdomis ufleba?

ai, shecdomebze dafiqreba ki ukve guls mimdzimebs da mashinebs. gana cotaa iseti adamiani, vinc tavis droze "amchatda", ar daukvirda, ar daeloda ufro dzlier da ghrma grdznobas, ifiqra, rom ukve ipova... da nanobs... nanobs imitom, rom grdznoba ganelda, gacivda, gaqra... shercha mxolod dakarguli dro, daghliloba, imedgacrueba da dadzabuli nervebi...

gamocdil adamianebs tu davujerebt, zogi ambobs, rom mxolod dro dagvarwmunebs namdvil siyvarulshi da achqareba ar sheidzleba. zogi ki, piriqit - siyvaruls pirveli amosuntqvistanave sheigrdznob, mixvdebi rom is "is" aris da misi xelidan gashveba arasodes mogindebao... xedavt, ra rtulia yvelaferi?

...tavi davanebe chveulebrivi adamianebtan am temaze saubars da ufro sainteresoze - mecnierebis kvlevebze gadavedi...

ai, ras mivageni:

turme amerikel mecnierebs sasiyvarulo gancdebis klasifikacia sheuqmniat - ganusazghvravt siyvarulis 6 saxe:
erosi - mgznebare siyvaruli-gataceba - es aris mdgomareoba mdzafri emociuri aramdgradobis da meryeobis, aghfrtovanebuli eiforiasa da mtanjvel ewhvianobas shoris.
ludusi - siyvaruli-tamashi, romlis mizania siamovnebis migheba;
storge - tbili da mshvidi siyvaruli-megobroba;
mania - siyvaruli-shepyrobiloba, romelic adamians yovlad damokidebuls xdis siyvarulis obieqtze (erosisa da ludusis sheertebit miigheba).
pragma, romelic damyarebulia racionalur sherchevastan (ludusisa da storges sheertebit miigheba).
aga-pe - umwikvlo siyvaruli-tavdadeba (erosis da storges sheertebit miigheba).

amerikeli fsiqologi doroti tennovi ambobs, rom mgznebare siyvarulis xangrdzlivoba aris daaxloebit 3 weli. urtiertobis ganvitarebis shemdeg icvleba kmayofilebit da kompensirdeba sxva momentebit - sitboti, simshvidit, stabilurobit da saimedoobit.

rac sheexeba konkretul sakitxs, tu ra sxvaobaa siyvarulsa da gatacebas shoris, fsiqologebs dzalian saintereso mosazreba aqvt: gataceba nishnavs imas, rom vpoulobt adamianshi im tvisebebs, romlebsac chven pirvel rigshi vafasebt. siyvaruli ki umetes shemtxvevashi brmaa. am dros adamians ar sheudzlia tavi akontrolos. sheidzleba siyvarulis obieqti iseti adamiani iyos, romelic saertod ar jdeba chvens gemovnebashi. ai, turme sadaa "dzaghlis tavi damarxuli"!

fsiqologta azrit, mxolod vnebaze damyarebuli urtiertobac ki sheidzleba iyos xangrdzlivi. gauziarebeli siyvarulic ki, tavis mxriv, sheidzleba iyos "bednieri". tanjva sasiyvarulo vnebebisagan uketesia, vidre misi sruliad ararseboba. urtiertoba - es urtiertdamokidebulebaa. siyvarulshi vighaca kocnis, vighaca ki loyas ushvers... aravitari formula siyvarulisa ar arsebobs, gancdebis agebuleba ar emorchileba aravitar analizs. migel de unamuno ambobs - "tu siyvaruls ganvsazghvravt, is gaqreba. siyvaruli - es mxolod saidumlo rodia, aramed tavadaa saidumloeba".

tqveni ar vici da me bevri ram menishna... axali tavsatexic ki gamichnda: netav, erosis, ludusis, storges da pragmas sheertebit ra miigheba? ...magram aq gavcherdebi da ufro metad chadziebaze uars vityvi. ...ar minda gaqres! ... da arc is minda, rom am saidumloebam xibli dakargos. dae, ise iyos rogorc aris! ...me momwons, mixaria, msiamovnebs, bedniers mxdis... da es yvelaze mtavaria. danarchens dro achvenebs.

tqven ki, chemo kargebo, girchevt ar achqardet sanam sabolood daukavshirebdet ertmanets cxovrebas. gamoscadet ertmaneti da darwmundit, rom namdvilad isaa is ertaderti, vistvisac ghirda lodini. mere ki mec gamandet tqveni siyvarulis ambebi. bednierebas gisurvebt!

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